Ben’s Friends, an organization of support groups aiming to help people in the food and beverage industry dealing with addiction problems, is relaunching an Asheville chapter.
Mickey Bakst, co-founder of Ben’s Friends, is just as passionate about its mission today as he was when he helped begin the group in 2016. He told the Citizen Times that the epidemic of addiction in the food and beverage industry has roots that are best addressed in a community of people who understand the intensity of the work.
“We provide them not only a place where they are with others that are suffering from their illness, but they are with others who understand their lifestyles, their way of life, their careers,” Bakst said. “So we create a community of food and beverage people, bartenders, line cooks, servers, waiters, hosts, who all share not just their addiction, but the commonality of the restaurant industry, and the pressures that go along with it.”
The first meeting of the relaunched effort is 10 a.m. July 10 at Rabbit Hole Café, 9 State St. Meetings had been held in Asheville in 2019. Now, meetings will be held at the café on Mondays after the first meeting. The Asheville chapter, like all Ben’s Friends groups, welcomes anyone who has found sobriety or is working toward a goal of sobriety while working in the food and beverage industry.
Bakst said Asheville residents who are curious about attending meetings but are nervous about the process could try attending remote meetings first. Ben’s Friends offers weekly national Zoom meetings and monthly women-only and men-only Zoom meetings. Attendees are not expected to speak or even show their faces until they feel comfortable doing so.
“They don’t have to show their face, they don’t have to tell their names,” Bakst said. “We have people who come to five, six, 10 meetings before they turn the camera on because they’re uncomfortable, but they’re there and they’re listening.”
Bakst and co-founder Steve Palmer are longtime restaurateurs. Both had struggled with addiction and had observed the problem that gripped their community for years. The death of their friend and colleague Ben Murray, who took his life in 2016 while struggling with addiction, was the final straw for the two.
“Both of us said enough is enough,” Bakst said. “We started in Charleston, we went to the media, we told them that we, the two sober people, were going to be there for anybody else who needed it, and a whole bunch of people showed up. And it just started growing, people coming from other cities, people reaching out, and that’s how we got to where we are.”
Ben’s Friends now has 24 chapters nationwide and hopes to expand to as many cities as it can to offer help and support to food and beverage workers struggling with addiction to drugs and alcohol.
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Asheville’s booming food and beverage industry is not immune to the destruction caused by addiction. In 2020, restaurateur and co-founder of well-known White Duck Taco Shop chain Ben Mixson died of an accidental overdose while on vacation.
The Citizen Times explored data gathered by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Its survey showed that 17% of workers in the food and beverage industry answered that they were dependent on, or had abused, alcohol and illicit drugs.
Bakst said that Ben’s Friends is so important because drugs and alcohol can often feel inevitable to people in the hospitality industry. With long shifts, late end times and high availability of substances, Bakst acknowledged that it can seem daunting for people in the industry to imagine the community without the addiction.
“There’s such a culture, a drinking and drugging culture, embedded in the restaurant industry,” Bakst said. “It does make it a little more difficult. But I want to say real clearly, it does not make it impossible.”
Bakst’s message to Asheville residents is simple but passionate.
“If you even have a remote thought that you have a problem, visit us. Come join us. Let us help you.”
For more information, email Ben’s Friends at bensfriendshope@gmail.com or visit their website.
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Iris Seaton is a news intern for the Asheville Citizen Times, part of the USA TODAY Network. Please support local, daily journalism with a subscription to the Citizen Times.
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